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My Difficulties with My Teenage Children

Since my kids turned around 14 or 15 years old,   I have been receiving hell from them and its been getting worse.   They are now 16 years old and now they say things to me like:   I don't want to hear you speak.   You are wrong and I am right.  They vehemently express their opinions to me, eventhough I did not say I disagree.  Everyday I dread opening my mouth or even talking to them.  I actually avoid talking to them.  They have set up the situation where I find it very difficult to talk to them.   I hear others say that this is normal and that other parents are getting it too.   But I find it very hard to take, when they put you down saying things like "I can't wait to be away from you so that I can live on my own and have my own life".   It is so insane that I would be in this situation where if it weren't for me, they wouldn't even be here at all  and to hear them cuss at you, yell at you...
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Suicide --- Acceptance versus Indulgence

A high school student was crying a lot, lost in her world of pains.  She talked about how her parents said or did something to cause her to commit suicide.  The school had an event to allow high school students to talk about their pains.  It was hours of not only acknowledging almost everything that cause teenagers pain --- LGBTQQ and gender fluxed identity crisis, parental and school pressures, unfriendly and bully school mates, disrespect, insecurities, on and on, for 7 hours, but also telling them we love them, in spite of all these.   We love them even though they commited suicide.  Are we sure we want limelight on this, that we are not propagating what is already happening in all our media ?   We now live in the era of digitalized and immediate perception. Could we be reinforcing our teenagers' misguided tendencies ?   It must feel relief and maybe even good to offload and publicized these and be accepted, not be judged, even told that they are ...
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